Our Journey towards Parenting!

Continuing on from the post about Alexis, I was ticked. Royally. It wasn't until God, in his gentle way, lead me to a song that got me through many other difficult times in my life. I had actually forgotten about this song until I played it on youtube. The chorus goes as follows... "God will make a way, when there seems to be no way He works in ways, we cannont see he will make a way for me He will be my guide hold me closely to his side with love and strength For each new day, He will make a way" Talk about God telling you it will be okay and that he is working in ways I can't see!

A few weeks ago, one of Matt's friends, emailed him through facebook about her niece, Alexis, whom was in foster care and was up for adoption in Michigan. We prayed, talked about, and prayed some more. It seemed like this is what God wanted. We made plans to upgrade to a bigger apartment, talked to Bethany, and still prayed. We were pretty excited to bring home a baby girl. But God said no, even though we swore he was saying yes. We talked to Bethany, and a couple others, and they said that it was basically impossible for us to adopt her. There were a lot of loops and holes to jump threw. So that was the first door closed. Then we found out that the apartment that we wanted to move into, was way too expensive for us, with both of us working. We wouldn't be able to keep our heads above water if I quit my job. So, there went that door. Then we learned that her current foster parents are getting attached to her, and are going to look into keeping her. Which is best for her. It was

So we got our application on September 10th! I opened up the envelope and took out a pretty big stack of papers. We started signing and filling out papers...and realized, if there are any skeltons in peoples' closets going through Bethany...they will find them out! There were two stacks of papers. One stack had to be completed by October 9th along with an online portion. Most of this was just "sign here and date this." Pretty boring so I won't go into much detail about that. The second portion is amazingly huge and has to be done before our first appointment with our social worker. This included more sign and date here, but also had questionneers about your childhood, how you were raised, your relationship with your parent(s) both now and in the past, your view on religion, where do you live, whats your apartment/house like, whats your community like, how will the child grow up, what are your views on discipline, etc, etc. One questionner alone was over 50 questions!